I was working on affirmation videos and for the next project I chose the affirmation – I make good decisions. The statement seemed almost too simple to even bother writing about and yet, how many times has that voice in my head (and probably yours too) said just the opposite. How many times have we fretted about making a pressing decision or tortured ourselves about one that we had already made because we lacked the confidence in our ability to choose the best option. I realized that the simplicity of the statement was exactly what made it a perfect affirmation - the discomfort of making difficult decisions is something we can all relate to.
So, repeat with me, “I make good decisions”.
this was written in the summer of 2020
I woke up this morning and my eyes were soft, like I had been having a nice dream. Anyone who knows me will suspect, as I did, that it was about some sweet dog. It was such a peaceful, happy feeling filled with love, it made me want to experience this feeling of gentleness, this softness in my gaze more often. And my wish came true later that afternoon, when I felt the softness return as I looked at a group of women that I care about deeply, and yet again, that evening, when I was sitting with friends enjoying their company and the pleasure of being outside on a summer’s night.
My musing for the day was realizing that I want to live with benevolence, that I want to truly see each person, to see the soul and the heart that lives behind the fear, the anger, and the disappointments that have been suffered. To see beyond the façade into the divine depths – to find the true connection.
What softens your gaze and how can you expand the experience to make it more inclusive?
A short time ago I logged out of Facebook for almost a week. I did this for several reasons, one was that I couldn't take the fighting and hatred being flung about - the polarization, the us vs them mentality; secondly I was finding myself getting so angry that I was afraid I was going to start spewing meanness and not only did I not want to act like that but I didn't want to think or feel that way either and lastly I think the world just crowded in on me and I needed space.
Leaving Facebook helped enormously, I had more time and more peace, and I think I will continue to take breaks. However, I enjoy the connections, the inspirations, the camaraderie, and the humor so I didn't want to stay away for too long.
With that being said I wanted to make a few statements in reference to some of the posts that trigger me because we seem to be choosing sides in issues that don't even require it. I think underneath most of us can unite. So here goes and please know I do not mean offense to anyone with my words.
Just because I support Black Lives Matter does not mean that I don't support other life - in case you hadn’t noticed I am vegan - so I take the respect for life thing pretty seriously.
Black Lives Matter vs All Lives Matter
Just because I support Black Lives Matter does not mean I am anti police. I know there are many fine, honest, caring officers, and their lives are being put into greater danger by those that engage in brutality and injustice.
Black Lives Matter vs Police
Just because I support compassion and support for immigrants does not mean I am advocating for them INSTEAD of veterans.
Immigrants vs Veterans (apples to oranges in my opinion)
Just because I support full punishment for cruelty to animals does not mean that I don't support full punishment for crimes against people. Are comparisons really necessary when it comes to abuse and suffering?
Michael Vick's cruelty to dogs vs crimes against people
Just because I support the notion that every being (human and animal) has the right to medical assistance when needed, does not mean I support socialism.
All sentient beings vs wealthy ones.
Just because I support a woman's right to choose does not mean that I am pro-abortion.
Abortion vs the right to choose
Just because my opinions about the way this virus is being handled may vary greatly from yours does not mean I am right and you are wrong, or vice versa.
Freedom vs security
Just because you say tom "ah" to and I say tomato does not mean that we can't find value in each other.
Let's talk, let's discuss, no bashing, no hatred, no snide posts. And before you speak or post, ask yourself what is my goal in sharing and what energy am I generating and passing on. Is my goal to inform, to empower, to bring smiles or laughter, to insult, to cause dissension, to unite, to vent, to garner support? Am I looking for a discussion or an argument, am I learning or teaching? Maybe if we can get a little clearer on our intentions, we will be more mindful of our words and posts.
So, you bring your value and I will bring mine and maybe, just maybe we can move forward together.
Recently someone said to me "I feel lost", the statement resonated with me because I so often feel this way. As i was contemplating the thought and feeling, what came to me was this - doing the same things, thinking in the same ways, behaving in ways that are expected and accepted is comfortable, maybe boring but at least familiar.
But trying new things, stepping out of your comfort zone, not knowing what direction to go, this is where life begins but also where all uncertainty lives.
Choosing what step to take when life has changed whether by choice or by circumstance can put you in no man's land, where the ground seems to keep shifting.
The mind's job is to protect and to play it small and safe, it whispers "what if I get hurt, what if it doesn't work out, what if I fail". The mind leads you to regrets and thoughts of - if only I had tried, if only I hadn't been so afraid.
But the heart lies close to the soul where imagination, creativity and love rule.
The soul chose to come here for the adventure, the learning and for the pure joy of expressing itself. The soul wants to take chances, to feel it's limitlessness and to express it's magnificence.
So when you feel lost and in doubt meditate, journal, talk it out with a friend.
Try out new hobbies, go to new places, break your routines, take classes, do some volunteer work - just small steps, no major commitments, and see you how feel. Be open to being a newbie at something, to feeling uncertain. You came here to live, to experience it all, don't spend your life wondering and contemplating all the possible outcomes.
Take action and when you do the universe will take action and support you with new opportunities and experiences.
I would love to hear your thoughts!