When you give, give from your heart and when you receive, receive with your heart. This 5 minute story demonstrates this point so beautifully, I hope you take the time to listen.
What a different experience our conversations would be if we adopted this wise advice. We might actually find value in a different perspective. And if nothing else the person who was speaking would leave the conversation feeling more respected and heard.
What do you have to lose other than worry, fear, stress and suffering? And possibly a bad outcome because you get what you focus on.
One puts you in a victim mode and takes away your control, the other opens you to limitless possibilities.