Recently someone asked the question “what are some affirmations that actually work?”. Although that was the question, I think they were really looking for an answer to the question “how do I get affirmations to work”. Many people view affirmations as some magical cure all, but without intention, belief, and action they are only words.
For an affirmation to work a few conditions must be present:
Affirmations aren’t magic, but they can be an effective tool when used in conjunction with setting clear intentions and goals and taking action to reach these goals. Check out my YouTube channel to get started with some short, affirmation videos.
Gratitude is one of my favorite topics, because it is a feel-good topic. There is something a bit supernatural about it, the way it can completely transform perceptions, feelings, and experiences. Even material goods seem to become something more when viewed with gratitude. Gratitude throws open the gates of the heart and closes the judgments of the mind. One of my father’s favorite proverbs was "I cried because I had no shoes until I saw a man who had no feet". Gratitude can bring about that feeling without witnessing someone with less. It has a way of making a little seem like an abundance, a way of brightening all the colors, of making the air smell fresher and your body feel lighter. Gratitude can give you that spring in your step.
So anytime you are feeling down, disheartened, or disenchanted, or if you are feeling a lack in some area of your life, like you don’t have enough -money, love, friends, time - stop and challenge yourself to write down things you are grateful for. It is an exercise that once you start it will gain its own momentum. If you are feeling stuck start small, like – the weather is nice; you enjoyed a hot shower; you heard a great song on the radio; you got a good parking spot. Look at those things that you take for granted – like indoor plumbing or your car starting when you turn the key, or the electricity needed to make that delicious first cup of coffee in the morning, or that fact that you slept in a bed last night and that you woke up this morning. These are the types of things we take for granted until something brings them to our attention – usually when something unexpected happens. I am saying don’t wait for that interference, instead notice now, notice the gifts, the blessings, the magic and miracles that surround you in every moment.
Gratitude is a game changer – practice at your own risk, it is highly addictive.
We have all been there, hearing the clock ticking on a pressing decision we need to make. We have spun it around and around in our minds, written down the pros and cons, gotten the opinions of others and still we cannot seem to choose. Our mind keeps flip-flopping and sending anxious messages throughout our body. But there is hope in a technique called heart brain coherence that joins the judgmental, critical brain with the feeling, intuitive heart and can lead you to make the decision that is right for you.
The first step is to place your hand or fingers over your heart space -touching this space is recommended because where attention goes, energy flows. Next focus on slow, even breathing – it can help to visualize the breath entering and exiting through your heart. And lastly, you want to use your mind to visualize and your heart to feel things that put you into an elevated state - people, pets, things, and experiences that bring emotions like gratitude, awe, joy, appreciation, and love (if you can keep it uncomplicated). This exercise will synch your brain and your heart which can help you to tap into your intuition, and that is key is making good decisions. An additional benefit is the combined force of your two “brains” (the heart is now being referred to as the second brain by some researchers) is that messages of well-being will be sent to the cells in your body. This practice can be done for a few minutes or longer and it can leave you feeling wonderful physically, mentally, and emotionally.